My Attraction Theory (Three COMM classes and Suddenly I'm an Expert)

I would like to propose a theory on how to attract males (I am going to say males because that's how I roll, but feel free to fill in if females are your thing).

Don't want a relationship. Don't want involvement from the opposite/same sex. Or, at least tell yourself that enough times until you believe it.

Apparently, it's that simple. Or at least, it is for me. Over the past two days, I have had about four guys either hit on me or tell me they like me, which is crazy (I swear, I am not that cool.). For various reasons and gut feelings, all of these men have been or will be turned down. But, why do they like me?

The answer is not a complicated one. Because I am not into them and because I am awesome. Since I am not into them, I can say whatever I feel like saying without caring all that much about what they think. When I am with Henry, I feel the need to watch myself, and make sure that every single move I make is "cool" enough. With these other guys, I already feel good enough, which gives me room to just be myself, whoever that is. Also, I am the best of both worlds; I like someone enough to appear committed (people are often attracted to people in relationships because they are unattainable and more at ease with themselves), but in reality, I am still single.

I cannot really be in a relationship right now. Spring semester of college is almost over, and I am hopefully heading over to the east coast to work at camp this summer. I also need to work out my love affair with drama that I discussed in my previous post before I can navigate a relationship.







Disclaimer: I would just like to say that I know that this post sounds super cocky, and it totally is, sorry. This does not happen to me on a regular basis, and I am still kind of amazed by it. Also, I am super flattered by all of the guys, and am doing my best to not lead them on, because that would be super super mean.

So Melodramatic But it Turns Me On

Alex: ... And you love it. You love it because you feed off that drama. You all love that drama.
Gigi: I don't.
Alex: Oh really? So you never wait until the last minute on a deadline or phone bill because secretly you kind of love the drama of not knowing whether or not you're going to make it?
Gigi: May...be?
Alex: And let me guess. When you were stalking Conor the other night, were you obsessing about him calling, constantly pacing back and forth and staring at your phone for days even though the date was just kind of mediocre?
Gigi: Ha. Okay, yeah?
Alex: Because you all thrive on the drama! But you've got to be more like me. If a girl likes me, great. But if not, there are plenty more out there like her.

 -He's Just Not That Into You

 You know that your life is a sad sad place when you can relate to something said in a chick flick. But honestly, this quote has been stuck in my head long after watching He's Just Not That Into You a few weeks ago. Because it's true, I love drama. And while Alex wasn't talking to me (because he is a character in a movie and has no clue who I am), he makes a valid point that relates directly to my life.

Readers, I am a drama addict.

This is an overdue realization, but it was definitely needed. I thrive on drama. As much as I like to hide it and say that "I do things for the stories", that's just a cover.  When life gets stale, I feel compelled to find ways to make it interesting, whether that be to break up with a boyfriend, talk to strangers, or drink way too much caffeine and call up Henry (who, I am pretty sure is attempting to friendzone me). Not even going into everything with Henry, that kid is like Hurricane Drama.

Sometimes, this can be a great thing. I refuse to let life bore me, and when I'm down, I look for interesting ways to cope, which oftentimes lead me to some amazing opportunities. 

However, sometimes it would be nice to just be okay with regularity.

But hey, that's what keeps life interesting.